Should you Dip into the Dating Pool with Fellow Em

[Alex]

I'd like to hear what others think before I give an opinion.

Thanks in Advance!

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Alex

[SHATOUSHKA]

its funny you bring this up, alex. i heard this topic on the radio this morning. (so all of my post is based on that show.)

from what i hear...
it depends on the 'distance' established in the workplace.
if the office space is divided up, it is socially (?) easier to date from outside of your 'level' (unless s/he you date is in authority over you). and never in your own department.
i argue against the use of the word 'socially' in the above statement simply because--to use 'socially' in such circumstances is to refer to 'comfort zones'.

if the workplace is limited and not necessarily departmentalized, it is suggested to use extreme judgment in dating within the same job.
(whatever that means).

somehow i believe you are wanting more of a personal opinion, alex, as opposed to some statistical data retrieved from a local radio station.


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[Alex]

Yes, Ms. Spock, that would be a logical conclusion.

AT EASE!

(for the record, I had already posted my idea before Radio Show, hey, maybe they saw it here!)

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Alex

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[SHATOUSHKA]

you know...the last time you called me that, we weren't exactly on good terms.
should i be concerned here?

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[Alex]

Ah Yes, the inevitable DNA strand that links all moments together (in a women's mind) when no link was intended.

Is this why woman need to be swept off of their feat (I meant to spell it that way) by Prince Charming...

...that way they can link the rest of their lives and every good thing that happens to the first "magical" encounter.

Sheesh!

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Alex

[SHATOUSHKA]

geeez.
that was a little harsh, dontcha think?

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[Alex]

My stitches have been removed.

I'm back baby!!!

Would you like to proffer an opinion that eminates from yon hither rooftoop rather than an antennae signal?

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Alex

[Hannibal]

I think you should have sex with all good looking co workers that you work with. Don't go out with, just one night stands with all of them.


No just kiddin, but I do think it's okay, as long as you make sure that both parties *you and her* realize that your relationship is NOT in anyway related to work. It's kinda like not bringing work problems home with you, you can't bring relationship problems to work.


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[SHATOUSHKA]

naturally i will reply to your request, alex.

i think that relationships in the workplace are unnecessary. i feel this way for several reasons. (though my gut instinct tells me to end this post here.)

obviously, if one tends to date a person from the office, no outside life is expected. naturally, (at least in my american-propigated opinion) i feel that people are lazy and meeting a person at the office with the (probable) intent (there's that word again) of forming a relationship of a personal nature is a bit base.

i am not essentially concerned with the power struggles one hypothesizes when thinking of office dates...
what i am concerned with is the fact that the initial interaction began at your job.

i tend to be reluctant in seeing ANY possibly, long-term situation occuring. what i do hypothesize is the constant referrals of work, time, deadlines, etc.

i have a strange psychological explination for this...however, i think i shall put it off for another thread later in time. (should it arise)

meeting a person at your job is mere convenience... while humdrumming to the work routine, the human mind tends to wander--after all, we are animals, NOT machines--and naturally those wanderings tend to be of a fantasy/hedonistic nature. its a mind/work pacifier.

now i am sure none of this is prevalent--or, surfacing as a face-value when one questions their 'desire' to meet someone on the jobsite. but i tend to believe that it lay underneath that crap.

the unfortunate thing is, we are conditioned to work our asses off... the funny thing is, we aren't really working our asses off. i mean, c'mon! we are all not out there sweating/freezing building things with our bare hands just to survive.
most jobs these days are superficial in value. cell phone companies, 'internet relations advisors'...shit like that.

when you compare the real jobs --construction, machinery repair, ditch digging...
these jobs are not limited to gender by any means. but usually these are the jobs associated with levelized co-worker relationships and cat calling to passers-by. go figure.

these people work. they don't hafta put the shine on. however, i would argue that if members of these jobs wanted to get together for dating relationships, they would be more authentic in nature...
as opposed to the pretty boy support tech or the fashion queen receptionist. (and you all KNOW i am referring to certain pop culture fields.

(come to think of it, the more i look, the less and less granny type-dentist secretaries there are...hmmmm.)


ok. that's a good rough draft.
feel free to comment or pose a query.
i feel like being martyred tonight.


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[soulfilms]

I think forming relationships at work is pretty reasonable considering that working people spend more hours awake at work than at home.

I don't particularly condone or encourage such 'behaviour' but I supose if it happens then ce la vie!

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